In the spirit of moving from conflict to clarity here is a simple way of increasing the chances of helping a tricky conversation go well, for you and the other person.
When we get hurt by other people's actions some of us may experience a desire to take revenge. As a society we tend to push away from the idea of revenge and yet it at its heart it may contain a gift.
In this video I suggest that you let your wish for revenge out in a safe way and see if you can determine what lies within it.
Our sense of what is normal has a significant impact on how we move through the world and what we expect from it. In the context of Black Lives Matter it is crucial for me as a white man to recognise how my day to day lived experience and my privilege will be radically different to that of people of colour. If I dont pay attention to this difference and act thoughtfuly upon it, I will be adding to the injustice that exists in our society.
We can all get into difficulty when our expectations don't get met. The challenge is that we often don't realise that we have an expectation until it gets stepped on. This video offers a simple solution if someone treads on your expectations
Can you listen with a soft hand?
What does this even mean?
Find out in the video.....
As we move from activity to activity, from doing one thing to doing another, do we notice the gap between the two activities. It serves us well to allow a moment of transition. Give yourself this as a gift.