A fundamental part of helping to shift from conflict to clarity is understanding that there is often something hidden underneath what appear to be very blunt and direct statements.
The thing that is stated is called a Position, what lies underneath is our Interest.
This video starts to explain the difference and how to look out for them.
Do you sometimes need help?
How easily do you ask for help?
Many of us are resistant to asking for help, we have an idea that we are meant to know the answer or that it may show vulnerability to ask for help.
Ask, it's good for you.
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Here is a video version of an older written blog. When we get hurt we protect ourselves but sometimes this protection can lead to an increase of damage rather than a reduction. Can we risk showing our vulnerability?
A key element of dealing well with conflict is to support ourselves in being able to respond rather than react and this video starts to explore how to move from one to the other.
How do you engage in conflict, do you run towards it or cower away from it. This video is an opportunity for a simple reflection on your style of behaviour and how that style might interact with other people.
In moving from Conflict to Clarity a key skill is our ability to pause. Our ability to recognise that things are heading in a difficult direction and being able to call time out. This video offers some simple thoughts and practices on Pausing.